Prioritize your Growth.

We live in a world that is constantly changing and evolving. The skills, knowledge, and mindset that may have served us well in the past often need to be updated and expanded upon for us to continue thriving. Simply coasting along and relying on what has worked before is a recipe for stagnation and eventually being left behind. This is the foundation of my life’s work.

I've found that the most successful and fulfilled people I know make a habit of constant learning, growth, and self-reflection. They understand that true and lasting success isn't just about reaching a certain job title, bank account balance, or other external marker. It's about continually becoming the best version of themselves - expanding their knowledge, honing their skills, and cultivating the mindset and habits that will serve them well both personally and professionally.

So what exactly do I mean by personal development and self-improvement? For me, it encompasses a wide range of practices and disciplines, but the core of it is about taking an active, intentional role in your own growth and evolution as a human being. This can include things like:

- Reading books, taking courses, and seeking out new information and skills to expand your knowledge and capabilities

- Developing self-awareness through practices like journaling, meditation, and seeking feedback from others

- Identifying and working to overcome limiting beliefs, bad habits, and other internal blocks that may be holding you back

- Setting clear goals and taking consistent action to move yourself forward

- Cultivating healthy physical and mental habits like exercise, nutrition, sleep, and stress management

- Seeking out new experiences, perspectives, and challenges to keep yourself stimulated and growing

- Working with a life strategist/coach/mentor to help you remain disciplined, focused, and on track to achieving your goals

The key is that it's an ongoing process, not a one-time thing. It's about making personal development and self-improvement a lifelong practice, not just something you do for a little while and then stop.

And this ties directly into the importance of mindfulness. Mindfulness is all about being present, self-aware, and attuned to your thoughts, feelings, and experiences in the moment. It's the opposite of mindlessly going through the motions of life. 

When you're being mindful, you're able to observe yourself and your behaviors with clarity and objectivity. You can notice the thoughts and emotions that are driving your actions, and make conscious choices about how to respond rather than just reacting on autopilot.

This self-awareness is crucial for personal growth and continued success. How can you identify areas for improvement and make meaningful changes if you're not paying attention to what's going on inside of you? Mindfulness gives you that crucial bird's-eye view so you can get honest with yourself, see your blind spots, and take intentional steps forward.

I'll give you a personal example. A few years ago, I noticed that I had developed a nasty habit of procrastinating on important tasks. I would find all kinds of excuses and distractions to avoid diving into the difficult or unpleasant work.  Then, I would be anxious and stressed that I had waited so long to begin the project at hand. At first, I didn't even really notice I was doing it - it had just become an ingrained pattern.

But through cultivating more mindfulness in my daily life, I started to catch myself in the act. I'd suddenly realize, "Oh, there I go again, watching that reality show instead of working on that project." Being able to observe my own behavior in the moment allowed me to start questioning it and experimenting with different strategies to break the procrastination cycle.

Over time, through a combination of mindfulness, self-reflection, and intentional habit-building, I was able to dramatically improve my productivity and focus. And the great thing is, that skill of noticing my own patterns and making conscious choices has served me well in so many other areas of my life as well.

That's the beauty of personal development and mindfulness - the benefits compound and spill over into every area of your life. When you're consistently working on expanding your knowledge, upgrading your skills, and cultivating healthy mindsets and habits, it has a ripple effect. You become a more capable, resilient, and fulfilled person overall.

Success or sabotage? Success is not just about reaching some external goal; it is about becoming the best version of yourself. Who do you want to be? 

Is this going to be an incredible day?  Begin to prioritize your own growth and evolution and watch how the days ahead seem to magically transform.  It’s an investment that pays dividends for the rest of your life. 

Develop your Mindset.

In our pursuit of greater success (however we choose to define it), one of the most transformational steps that we can take is the development of a personal growth mindset. Unlike a fixed mindset where our abilities are static, a growth mindset thrives on the belief that talents, intelligence, and additional skills can be developed through dedication and hard work. Cultivating this mindset enhances our capabilities and propels us toward unprecedented success.

When we have a growth mindset, we can see challenges and opportunities to learn and evolve. Instead of avoiding difficulties, we confront them head-on, knowing that overcoming obstacles is an integral part of our journey to success. When we find a way to embrace challenges, we open ourselves up to new possibilities and develop greater resilience in the face of adversity. Each setback becomes an opportunity for us to refine our skills and move closer to achieving our goals.

Constructive criticism is a powerful tool for personal development. If we are focused on growth, we can see feedback as valuable insights rather than a personal attack. We can embrace feedback as a means to identify areas of improvement as we continue to refine our approach. Learning from criticism fosters a continuous cycle of improvement, positioning us on a path of constant growth.

When we have a growth mindset, we prioritize learning over success. Rather than simply measuring our achievements by the end result, we value the knowledge that we gain along the way. Every experience provides us with an opportunity to acquire new insights and refine our skills. We view setbacks as stepping stones toward success instead of failures.

Curiosity is the fuel that drives a growth mindset. If we remain open and embrace a diversity of perspectives, we broaden our understanding and enhance our ability to adapt to a variety of environments. We become continuous learners, ready to navigate any challenges that come our way.

Success or sabotage? When we have a growth mindset, success becomes a natural byproduct of our commitment to personal development.

Is this going to be an incredible day? If we see everything as a potential learning experience, the day will be rich with opportunities.

Condition for Success.

Success is not a stroke of luck or an arbitrary outcome bestowed upon a select few; it is the result of conditioning (aligning thoughts, words, and actions with a clearly defined vision). Mindfulness and discipline play crucial roles in this process. When we become aware of our thoughts, we have the power to start aligning them with our desired outcomes. Thoughts have tremendous power, and by practicing mindfulness, we can ensure that they are focused on what we truly wish to achieve.

Aligning thoughts alone will only take us so far, however. Words are equally important in creating success. We must also be mindful of the words that we are using. Speaking positively about ourselves and our goals supports the alignment process through mindfulness. Our words have an impact on our subconscious mind and shape our self-image. By consistently reinforcing positive ideas through language, we are conditioning ourselves for success.

Naturally, success cannot be achieved through thoughts and words alone; they must be accompanied by focused, conscious actions. Clarity in vision allows us to determine the actions necessary to achieve our intended goals. Without action, all the positive thinking and affirmations become meaningless. The cause-and-effect relationship between aligning thoughts, words, and actions creates a powerful momentum toward achieving any vision we set for ourselves.

Success or sabotage? Becoming clear about what you want is a small part of the equation. Achieving true success requires a strategic plan that enables you to always be clear about why you are doing what you are doing and how it applies to bringing your vision to fruition.

Is this going to be an incredible day? Every day is ripe with opportunities; it is up to us to seize those opportunities and use them to help us grow closer to manifesting the life that we desire.

If you find this formula to be daunting or overwhelming, I can help. For over 20 years, I have been working with individuals to help them define “success” in a measurable capacity and create strategies that ensure that they achieve them. If you feel that you would benefit, contact me for more information.

Appreciate the Gift.

For many (including myself), Christmas is a difficult holiday. We may embrace the concept, appreciate the sentiment and decorate the tree, but this does not guarantee that we will experience the holiday spirit that seems so seemingly effortless for the communities that surround us. It is only when we are able to embrace our current circumstances, the emotions that accompany them and the journey that brought us to this point that we are able to fully appreciate the gift of this revered day.

This is my first holiday season without both of my parents. For the first time, I realized that I am orphaned. With no spouse/partner or children, I am missing the identity that was so often the foundation of my life. I am no longer “a son.” I am simply me.

In the midst of the festivities, I find myself feeling hollow, yearning for a Christmas that may have (in fact) never existed. I breathe through the sadness, wipe away my tears and redirect my attention to the blessings that remain evident in my life. I am here. Unlike so many, I have the gift and privilege of still walking on this planet. I had the luxury of two parents who (in the midst of their own flaws) loved me despite my many imperfections.

Christmas represents the birth of a new found awareness, a power and possibility—an awakened consciousness for new beginnings. We have an opportunity to receive the gift of the spirit of this day in the midst of the upheaval that may be our lives and direct our attention to that which we have yet to create.

It is OK that I don’t wish to sing. It is OK that I don’t feel comfortable attending your party. It is OK that I did not hang a wreath or put up a tree. It is OK to be sad…for now. I can still appreciate what is, what has been and the glimmers of hope for the days that have yet to unfold. I can allow the Christmas spirit to meet me right where I am, knowing that this too (like all things) shall pass.

Success or sabotage? Sometimes it is important to remember that the greatest gift for our success is the fact that we have been awarded another day to attain it.

Is this going to be an incredible day? I will take this day and receive it with all of the good that is offered, realizing that where there is breath, there is possibility.

Thank you to all who take the time to read my musings here and elsewhere. Your time, attention and support do not go unnoticed. I wish you the best and brightest holiday season. If you are one that celebrates (or one that can simply appreciate the sentiment): MERRY CHRISTMAS! Sending you love from Chicago.

Mark

Live your Purpose.

Why are you here?

Today, I do not mean why are you reading this or why are you following me? I mean what is your purpose? Many will pause in uncertainty as if they missed the memo that would have undoubtedly instructed them on what they were here to do. While you wait for the instruction, precious time is passing. You are living your life by default, managing what arises, questioning the necessity of unwelcome circumstances and grasping for something to fill the void that you believe once contained some passion and purpose (or did it?).  

The reason that you are here today, reading what I am writing, is that you are in need of a healthy reminder.  This life is not a dress rehearsal. This day is never coming again. You are not here by accident or coincidence. Your presence on this planet, on this day, at this time is by design. You have a unique skill, gift, talent or being that is needed, right here, right now. You have been called. The question is not about whether you are the right person. You are the perfect person. The question, the ONLY question, is are you going to say "YES" to the life that is awaiting you? Are you going to say "yes" to living larger, brighter, bolder and more aligned with the yearning of your soul? Are you going to allow the inner voice of your skeptic, devil, ego to tempt you into inaction by telling you "not today," "not now," "not you"? Will you allow yourself to be carried down the black hole of uncertainty and perfectionism by awaiting greater clarity by wanting to be right instead of being effective? If you are awaiting a sign, this is it. God, your higher self, your intuition, your soul, your essence all speak in the same language. This is not the first time that you have heard this invitation. This is not the first time that you have wanted to say "yes," but have instead surrendered to "not now." This, however, is one of the last times that you may receive the message with such clarity that your soul stirs--silently screaming from a place of incredible unrest that today is the day. It is your day to decide. Who do you want to be? How do you want to walk on this planet? How do you wish to be remembered? How will you shine your light in a darkness that can only be illuminated by the gift that is yours to offer? If not you; then who? If not now, then when?

Success or sabotage?  Success has always been yours for the taking. When you realize that in combination with the fact your definition of success is all your own, sabotage is no longer a possibility.

Is this going to be an incredible day? With every day, there is a seed of greatness...it is not outside of you. It is you. It is waiting for you to allow it to come forth.

If you are feeling lost or disconnected from that which is yours to do on this planet, please know that I am here for you. That is my purpose (not because I am the man with the answers, but because I am the one with the questions). I have the skills, talents, expertise, and methodologies to remind you of that which (at some level) you already know. If you feel called to do so, contact me. I will help you.

Focus on Intentions.

Focus on your intentions. How will the outcome of your efforts, dreams, and visions look? How will it feel once you have all that you desire? Let go of the ramblings of the mind that question the possibility, probability or methods of your "madness"? Allow your self to get caught up in (what now may seem to be) the fantasy. If you wish to live at your highest possible potential, this is not folly, it is a responsible necessity.

All greatness was perceived by a vision. Relish your thoughts and acknowledge them as the creative force that is within you. You may either create consciously or unconsciously. Which one serves you best at this moment? Take the time to think today. What will your life look like when all is as you desire it to be?

Success or sabotage?  success is the outcome of focused thoughts, words, and actions.

is this going to be an incredible day? what do you THINK?

Affirm your Desire.

The page lies blank before you. Rather than allowing it to draw itself, what is it that you wish to create? Begin with your self. So much of your success is a product of your being--who you choose to be at any given moment. Know that "I am" are the two most powerful words on the planet. In these words, lies the truth of your being and the commitment to its unfolding.

Do not affirm that which you do not wish to create. If you have experienced sleeplessness and do not wish to infuse a downward spiral, do not empower your exhaustion by declaring "I am tired." Many of us not only affirm that which we dread, we also provide all of the evidence and reasoning that supports our claim (why it makes sense that we feel bad, etc...). "I am tired because the kids kept me awake, I had to work late, I only had 4 hours of sleep, etc...."

I am not suggesting that you deny your truth. I am suggesting that you need not infuse, season and inject it with more negative energy.  Instead, I invite you to focus on that which you deeply desire, knowing that every day holds the seeds of possibility to make it happen.  Begin with the consciousness of what you would like to create in this moment. Who are you today? Answer this question with your highest vision for your self and continue to declare it, allowing your actions to support your commitment. You will be amazed at the results.

Success or sabotage? The only saboteur to success is you. get on your own side; you are your own best advocate.

Is this going to be an incredible day? I am certain that it already is!

Risk the Disappointment.

Increased consciousness requires a certain amount of fearlessness and curiosity. One must be willing to step into the discomfort of the unknown, traveling in unchartered waters, knowing that the rewards will be far greater in the end. There is always that moment, at the urging of your soul, when you must FIRST jump and only then will the net appear.

In order to make the transition from mere existence to living, one must be willing to risk disappointment. This transition can begin with small steps. Today, step out of character, alter your routine. Do something that you have never done before. Do you feel your heart beating a little faster when you consider it? Order something new and untried for lunch, get lost on the way home, attend a play that you would not ordinarily see...enjoy the adventure that could be your life.

Success or sabotage? Success and fear are not compatible; fear is only helpful if it is managed.

Is this going to be an incredible day? Does your curiosity outweigh your fear and resistance?

Derive the Wisdom.

As we enter a new year and invariably conduct our review of the year that has passed, it is important to embrace all of life's experiences (however painful) as opportunities to increase our wisdom moving forward. Everything that happens TO you, happens for you (if you allow it).  

We need not diminish the very real pain or excuse the often egregious behavior of others to utilize the experience as a lesson in being even more effective in our daily lives. We may either stay married to the belief that we are simply pawns in a dark world of injustice or we can utilize what we are provided as simply another tool in our continuing evolution.  

There are many that reject the notion that everything happens for a reason. I would suggest that (whether it is true or false) investing in a philosophy that inspires you to rise above any perception of victimization is potentially helpful (and will ultimately expedite your level of success in the end).  

As you reflect on the year that has passed, what were your greatest challenges? What resulted in the most pain and discomfort?  How will you use those experiences to better inform your choices in the future?  

Success or sabotage?  Success often requires us to stand apart from the challenges and obstacles in our lives and view them as opportunities for growth and fulfillment.  How would you characterize the wisdom that you have attained in the last year?

Is this going to be an incredible day?  If you are able to consider that every experience in your life is seasoned with implicit wisdom, then every day has an unyielding potential for greatness.