Resolve your Conflict.

Most of us have found ourselves in the midst of a conflict at one time or another. It is often like being stuck in a maze with no clear path of escape. Our hearts beat a little faster and we wonder how we are going to escape this intense discomfort. Conflict is a natural part of being human. It is not the conflict that ordinarily defines us; it is how we choose to handle it that determines our effectiveness. So, how can we become more effective at conflict resolution?

First, it is important to remember that conflict is not always a bad thing. Unresolved conflicts can fester and escalate, but, when managed properly, conflicts can be a catalyst for positive change and growth. 

If we are truly intent on resolving the conflict, we have to understand the underlying cause. We must be willing to go deep enough to move beyond the surface-level issues to uncover the root of the problem. It might be a difference in values, misunderstandings, or unmet needs. Whatever the case, taking the time to understand what’s driving the conflict is the key to finding a resolution that sticks.

We have to also be willing to listen. Too often, conflicts arise because people are so busy defending themselves and talking past one another that they are not truly hearing what the other person is saying. We need to surrender our agenda for the moment and pay attention to the other person's words and emotions.

Empathy is a powerful tool in conflict resolution. Putting ourselves in the other person's shoes allows us to see things from their point of view, fostering understanding and compassion. It doesn't mean we have to agree with them, but it does mean acknowledging their feelings and validating their experiences. When everyone feels heard and understood, it paves the way for finding common ground and reaching a resolution.

Another essential aspect of effective conflict resolution is managing emotions. Conflict can stir up strong emotions like anger, frustration, and hurt. While feeling these emotions is natural, allowing them to control the situation can escalate the conflict further. Instead, we can strive to maintain a calm and composed demeanor, even in the heat of the moment. If we need to do so, we can take a step back if we need to cool off before rationally addressing the issue.

We must also be willing to respect differences. We are all unique with our perspectives, beliefs, and values. Respecting differences does not mean that we have to agree with them; it simply means that we are acknowledging and honoring another point of view. Embracing diversity enriches our lives and allows us to learn from one another, even in the face of conflict.

If we strive for a win-win outcome, instead of a win-lose scenario, we can find creative solutions that address everyone’s concerns. We must be willing to compromise. If we are willing to collaborate on solutions, we can create a sense of teamwork and partnership and strengthen our relationship in the process. 

Timing is everything in conflict resolution. Addressing the issue promptly prevents it from escalating further and allows for timely resolution. It is also important to be conscious of our location for our conversation. We should avoid any public settings where privacy might be compromised or where emotions can not be freely expressed. Avoid addressing conflict when emotions are running high; instead, wait for a calm and appropriate moment to have a constructive conversation.

Forgiveness is a powerful tool in conflict resolution. When we hold onto grudges and resentments, it only perpetuates the cycle of conflict. If we choose to forgive and let go of our past grievances, we release the burden of our anger and bitterness and free up energy and space for healing and moving effectively better. 

Each conflict presents us with an opportunity for growth and learning if we choose to allow it. By continuously honing our conflict resolution skills, we will become more adept at navigating challenges so that we can build stronger relationships.

Success or sabotage? Conflict resolution doesn’t have to be a roadblock; it is a stepping stone for greater understanding, connection, and success if we are willing to do the work.

Is this going to be an incredible day? If we embrace the challenges that arise and strive for resolution in every interaction, every day will simply get better and better.