One of the simplest and most frequent means of connecting to others is by sharing our misery in response to a circumstance in which we feel victimized. This is prevalent on social media where many freely express their frustration, angst and unhappiness to friends, families and strangers alike. When we do this, we must consider whether the potential benefits outweigh the liabilities.

Confession is good for the soul and there is often a benefit to unburdening our souls by releasing the power of a negative experience. In order to be effective, however, it is imperative that we are clear in our intentions (and that our focus is on the release rather than nurturing the pain that inspired the sharing). Sharing for emotional support in troubled times can be healthy. Sharing to illicit sympathy from others to find camaraderie in pain can be addictive and (ultimately) counterproductive.

Most of us know people that seem to be in a perpetual cycle of trials and tribulations. For them, every day is filled with yet another unexpected life event in which they have been victimized. Many are nourished by the sympathy, empathy and shared drama that is often inspired by the sharing of these experiences. It is a cycle of addiction that feeds rather than eliminates the pain that they are claiming that they wish to escape.

When you find yourself inspired to share an unwelcome circumstance, it is beneficial to take a moment to examine your intentions. Are you sharing for relief or to attract sympathy and companionship in your victimization? If you are simply sharing, then make an effort to share and release; then, direct your intention to the favorable conditions that you are creating as a result.

Success or sabotage? Your life experience is a product of your focus, attention, thoughts and actions. If you continue to focus on what you do not want, you will create more of it.

Is this going to be an incredible day? Every day has tremendous value if you choose to utilize it. When negative circumstances arise, use them to gain greater clarity for what you will create as you move forward.