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Create effective Habits.

Are you managing your life or is your life managing you? One of the greatest story lines on television was when George on "Seinfeld" got so fed up with his life that he decided to ignore his instincts and do everything the opposite of his inclination.  Once he made the switch, his life was magically transformed and he started to get everything that he wanted.  There was a great deal of truth in the plot. 

Sometimes we get so caught up in our story (our version of reality) that we forget that it is simply our viewpoint and our choices, not a definitive reality.  We often live as though the world is unfolding and we just showed up to watch.  We simply react to what we are given; we often act as if we have no responsibility for what happens in our lives.  This is a sure path to sustained misery.  For all practical purposes, we might as well just lay on the highway and beg the largest truck to run us over.

Our lives are a product of our thoughts and choices. Our thoughts and choices are habitual. How many times must we suffer from making ineffective choices before we awaken to the truth? When are we going to invest in the energy and discipline necessary to create the kind of lives that we say we want?

Notice how often you begin to validate the way that you feel today.  Stop yourself (in mid-stream, if necessary) and disengage.  Start again...only this time come up with a solution. What is one small step that you can take TODAY to create more effective habits?

Success or sabotage?  Which master are you serving?

Is this going to be an incredible day?  Are you ruling the day or is the day ruling you?